Friday, April 1, 2011

YES, I'M STILL FUN! Now stop asking!

I recently made the decision to withdraw from my sorority. It's really not too big of a deal, because we were in the process of transitioning from a local sorority (Sigma Delta) to a national sorority (Sigma Delta Tau) and most of my friends in conjunction with either, I made while part of SigDelt. So while I may not be a SDT gal, I will always be a SD gal. Confusing, I know. I would be lying if I said I didn't miss the sorority life just a little bit (or at least the constant photo reminders on Facebook and the periodic emails that get sent my way on accident), but I know I made the right choice.

Some of my SigDelt gals--Fall '10
My "twin" from my sorority came up to me the other day asking this question: Do you really not have time or did you just not want to do it? The truth is, I really didn't (don't) have the time, and I would rather put my financial resources toward this competition. I was sort of shocked at the question, that someone would doubt the reasons behind my decision. Not many people appreciate the work that goes into preparing for a goal as grand as this one (grand in my mind). As of this past Monday, I am no longer affiliated with the sorority. But I can't say that it was a huge loss because I had been to all of maybe 2 out of 7-8 events by that point. I had already missed 3 new member meetings, our "retreat" (which was on campus?!), and a cookie swap. That brings me to another point--they had all these events scheduled that revolved around 2 things: food and drinking. And I'm sorry that I can't indulge in either, but it would be nice to have something without the temptations present. All-in-all, I'm okay with my decision. I may not be part of the legacy of bringing SDT back to the UVa campus, but I'm making my own legacy. And trust me, if I thought girls here were interested in competing in Figure Competitions, I would sure as hell make a CIO (a club) of it. But alas...

Melissa, on the boat in FL
This whole post was sparked by another event of sorts--a text message and a gchat conversations, if you will. Disclaimer: I know that a lot of my good friends read this blog, but I'm just trying to be honest here. Last night I got 2 texts from my good friend, Melissa, of whom I've mentioned before. She is one of my SD sisters and was an SDT sister until I dropped. She has nothing against my decision to drop, but also says that if she were involved in something else that took up her time, she would not continue either. But yes, while showering after my 2-hour workout last night, I received the following text from her: "I may be bad but I'm perfectly good at it..." Of course, I knew immediately a few things: 1. she's referencing Rihanna's S&M due to our Spring Break trip, and 2. she must be out at bars. Turns out I was right. An hour later, I get another text of the same sort: "Sex in the air that's ok I like the smell of it." My immediate response was "What are you doinggggg?!?!" though I already knew the answer. Melissa: "Raging! Everywhere I go I hear it haha I always think of the boat in FL." At this point, I was in bed, about ready to sleep. So while I wish I were out with her and some of our friends, I was exhausted.

Drunk yoga--not for me!
It's a little frustrating though. Hearing about the times when my friends go out and I'm at home, already in bed. I get the late text messages, but I don't get the invite? It would be one thing if I got asked to join the group even though I can't drink. No one really knows about the exhaustion part until they read this. But no, I just get the texts, and yet people expect me to be okay with it AND still to be up. So if you think I'm awake, why not invite me out in the first place? I have friends constantly tell me they "miss seeing [me]." Well, you wouldn't if you picked up your phone and added me to the mass text you send that says "Hey, rage tonight!" Once again, I won't be raging, but I'll be there spiritless (get it, haha, alcohol-less) in spirit. But no, I guess they'll just keep missing me.

And with missing me and not being invited out places, it's like I'm all of a sudden boring. I had another conversation with a friend Johnathan, whom I haven't spoken to in a while due to a falling out of sorts. But 2 nights ago, we were talking via gchat and a few lines into it he asks, "So are you still fun?"Seriously buddy? Are you still fun?!?! What kind of question is that? I replied back the only way I knew how: "What do you mean by that?"His response: "Like do you go out and are you fun?" Well, now I have 2 questions to answer, and one of them is the same question, rephrased. "I've been out...twice. For lack of time and exhaustion rather than for not drinking. And I don't really know because both situations were with Celia and we were just chilling. I'd assume I'm still fun." The conversation went on and he asked what I was doing, and I responded that I was updating my blog (at 9pm on a Wednesday). Sigh.

Bottom line: If you are going to tell me you miss me or ask me if I'm still fun, why not first ask me to go out with you guys. It's true that I may say no most times sometimes, but at least just ask instead of asking me if I'm "still fun." At the least, it's way less rude and less offensive than implying that I'm a boring recluse. That being said, I LIKE THE GYM AND I LIKE MY WORKOUTS AND I HAVE FUN DOING IT ALL!!! Now stop asking and go have fun raging and texting me in the middle of the night. Oh wait, it's 8am Friday morning. So unless you're still out from the night before, you're probably not "raging."

P.S. Shout-out to Celia for being the only one to still invite me places and being a great friend! She doesn't ask questions that aren't warranted and doesn't judge me for sitting there watching basketball with her at the bar drinking water and/or unsweetened iced tea while she nurses a beer (something I wish I could be doing...once I'm done with the competition). You're amazing, girl!


  1. I love your blog. And while I'm obviously not as young as you, I like to think I'm still fun. Just because I workout and take nutrition seriously doesn't mean I won't cut loose and have a good time (even without alcohol). I can always relate to what you're saying! :D

  2. I love the fact that being as young as you are,you are choosing this lifestyle rather than the partying/eating college lifestyle. Kudos to you, that's just great! You should be really proud of yourself. Keep up the good work!!